My Dad died because of drink

by Sara
(Nottingham, England)

6 months ago my dad died from liver cirrhosis. I was 15. He didn't make it to my 16th birthday which was in April. He had always had a drink problem since before I was born, but it was never as bad as it had gotten in the last year of his life. He always said that he would get help and that he would 'sort it', but he didn't realize how serious it was, and I don't think he ever did.



My parents had divorced about 6 years ago so I used to see him at the weekends. I loved spending my weekends with him, he was so funny and knowledgeable. I thought that if I didn't see him he would stop drinking, but that never happened. I stopped seeing him for about 2 months and that created pain for me everyday.


After seeing my grandma (dad's mum) I decided I wanted to see him again. When he opened the door, he was completely yellow. We took him to the doctor straight away, who admitted him to the hospital. I was so sure that this would be his wake up call, and I think it would have been if he had survived. He was in hospital for 3 weeks. Until two days before his death, we didn't even know it was going to kill him. It was so sudden.


As an only child I felt so alone and that no one understood. I was half way through year 11 and had January exams approaching. It was such a big thing for me to have to deal with, and still is. I often forget what has happened and think I can just call him or turn up at his house to see him. This is the worst thing that has ever happened, I really don't know how I have coped. I just want my daddy back.


I think about the future a lot. If I get married or have children, he won't be there. What he did was preventable and didn't need to happen, it has affected his family and friends so much, and it has changed my life forever. For anyone who has a drink problem, you can change. Please don't leave your loved ones behind. It's not too late, but it may soon be if you don't change.

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Mar 05, 2016
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by: Jay

Today I've been sober for 68 days. It's been and still is very hard to be victorious against this monster. I am so sorry to hear your heartbreaking story. What I can say, is this "love all you can" because you never know. Believe me, I know from my own experience that alcohol doesn't play fair. There's nothing fair about it at all. I pray that you have enough support from your family and friends. To help you through this heartbreaking time in your life.

Jun 11, 2012
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My Dad died because of drink...
by: Trisha

I am so sorry for what you have been through. I'm sure it has made you have to grow up really fast.
I am an alcoholic who has been sober now for 23 months. One important thing to remember is that alcololism is a disease. Alcoholics are no more in control of it as a diabetic is to diabetes. My point is that you can't take what your Dad did personally. There is nothing you could have done differently that could of changed the outcome. Lots of alcoholics don't seek treatment and it certainly doesn't reflect how much he must have loved you. Alcoholics simply can't stop drinking unless they seek treatment and even then it is a constant battle. I am grateful to the doctor who told me that if I didn't stop drinking, I would be dead in 5 years. It's what keeps me sober. it's so ironic but I always said that I would die for my family but it didnt stop me from drinking!

May 29, 2012
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It nearly killed me
by: Anonymous

Im just weeks out of detox for vodka and its sinking in exactly what damage ive done to my daughter .. Hopefully your story will help someone like me to see sense .. Thank you so much for telling your story .. Makes me feel ashamed so i'll use that motivation to stay off drink ..

May 29, 2012
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To Sara
by: Rae

Hi Sara,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is very brave of you to share this with everyone. I cannot begin to tell you how sorry I am for your loss; I can only imagine how devastating it must be.

It's really wonderful for you to share this with the world so that maybe someone will change and get the help they need before it's too late. I know nothing can bring back your dad but I hope you realize how strong you are and how admirable it is that you are opening up about this to try to help other people.

Thank you again, and my thoughts are with you and your family.

Rae

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